Understanding The Language of Communication

Part I

I wanted to share an experiece. I was having a conversation recently, although I felt I was clear, the other person totally misunderstood the message. It lead me to write this blog.

I am a Grief Recovery Counselor. I research emotional health, because I want to understand others and I am a born helper.  I believe in harmony but I understand that before it can be reached there are often times of conflict in communication. We all speak a different language even though it is english. Communication and its definition is learned in the home through personal experiences and interpretation of those experiences. How we interpret our first encounters of conflict is the definition we ascribe to through out our lives.....(unless we seek to grow in emotional maturity). 

So, the result of a simple conversation can and many times do result in conflict. The first lesson in overcoming conflict is realizing there is a misunderstand of the definition of the mutual experience.  

If you gain the ability to step back, listen to the other person without listening for a sharp comeback. Listen with intent to understand. Many times you can understand the definition of the other person's perception and you can speak to them using their language, interpretation, and perspective.  When people see that you truly care their defenses decrease......(unless there is a personality disorder). Then true communication begins. 

This can only be accomplished from pure intentions. 

This is only step one!

If you find you have had similar experiences look out for Part II.

And ALWAYS remember you are not broken, I am here for you.

Beverly